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And then it was quiet

It's the Monday after Thanksgiving and all through the house, not a creature stirring not even a mouse. There better not be any mice stirring or we are moving.

The kids were home for the past week as it was our Thanksgiving. We had a steady stream of people through the house. And when the kids are here, they tend to gather neighborhood children and bring them back. I love being "that" house in the neighborhood, but it gets loud.

Younger girls were inside playing and the older kids (with me and B) were outside playing 4square. Yes, we put a 4square court in the driveway.

Now it's Monday.

The kids went back to their mom's last night. The relatives are gone. B and I are back to work, him in the office and me from the kitchen table. It's time to get back to the usual before the rush of the next wave of holidays and family visits.

It's quiet.

Shelly has no idea what to do with herself as there is no one to play with, no one to snuggle on the couch with. All she has is me pushing her off my arm so I can work and her reflection in the fireplace glass to bark at.

 
B and I have begun calling this "Post transition let-down". We breathe a huge sigh when we pull out of their mom's driveway, but we also really miss them when they aren't with us. The house is quiet. No one is asking a million questions half of which they already know the answer to. I'm not watching the clock to see when I need to leave to go pick them up from school. All of a sudden it feels like there is all the time in the world. It's too quiet. It's lovely. It's lonely.

And if you are new to reading my yammering, the original blog I mentioned in yesterday's post is here: Building Block

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  1. indigoscotDecember 2, 2019 at 10:31 AM

    Not exactly the same, but recently all 3 kids and Dely went to an evening birthday party (middle son stayed for the sleepover) and it was so quiet that I didn’t quite know what to do with myself. It’s in these moments when I realize I function better with constant go go go than I do when it’s calm.

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    1. Shawna GrayDecember 2, 2019 at 10:50 AM

      I think it is a testament to how much we invest of ourselves in others. When others aren't needing us, what do we do.

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  2. LizDecember 2, 2019 at 11:45 AM

    This is designed so that you will cherish the “full house” when it comes. Otherwise, you will drink! 🥴

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